Susan Williams
2010-02-01 18:11:49
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health
Hi anyone there who has suffering from a sudden health crisis... after years of good health. ? Loosing confidence, coping with pain and a new conditon. First time on a chat room..... I am 60 , with a loving family, . One daughter lives at home aged 32 after many years in UK.
I teach yoga (normally) ride horses and usually have a very busy life. I feel worried about being alone all day , now the holidays are over.
Happy to talk on any subject.
Any advice out there??
Susan
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francis
2010-02-02 17:51:56
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health
Hi Susan,
Man, health is the biggie for our age group. It's so easy to take it for granted and so easy to lose good health. My (now ex) husband was diagnosed with failing kidneys several years ago and I remember so vividly how this supposedly indestructible man became so frightened at facing his own mortality. The first surgeon he went to had no bedside manner at all, which didn't help. After several years on dialysis, he was very lucky to find he had a good match with his partner who very generously gave him a kidney. I think women deal with ill health so much better than men. We tend not to ignore it and are receptive to alternatives. I'm sure there are other members out there who will have gone through or are going through the same health issues and will be able to give their advice on what they did and how they coped, so good luck wit that.
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francis
2010-02-02 17:58:06
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health
Hi again,
Actually, I've just remembered one of my close friends has just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and my sister-in-law has it also. Will ask them if they have any words of wisdom for you
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susan williams
2010-02-02 20:32:08
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health
Dear Francis,
Thank you so much for your reply. So exciting. to be communicating like this.
So sorry to hear about your husband's health and the shock he must have had. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer but have had successful treatment. He had a very pragmatic approach. Asked all the right questions . I quaked and was feeble about it all.
I have been diagnosed with colitis.Waiting to hear about more tests.
Been a shock to be the unwell one.... unable to do my normal activities.
love to talk again. many thanks Susan
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susan Haigh
2010-02-02 20:33:14
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health
Dear Francis,
Thank you so much for your reply. So exciting. to be communicating like this.
So sorry to hear about your husband's health and the shock he must have had. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer but have had successful treatment. He had a very pragmatic approach. Asked all the right questions . I quaked and was feeble about it all.
I have been diagnosed with colitis.Waiting to hear about more tests.
Been a shock to be the unwell one.... unable to do my normal activities.
love to talk again. many thanks Susan
Also sorry for your sisiter and law and friend... love any advice
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Louise
2010-02-03 14:06:07
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health
Hi Susan - It seems we are all experiencing detrimental changes in health as we get older. My husband had polio as a very small child and had dealt with the aftermath all his life until suddenly, with the onset of age, ihe started to suffer post polio sysmptoms. It has been about knowing what the problem is and both of us managing the resultant symptoms. What is encouraging though is to have full knowledge of what the way foward will look like and take steps to manage his health so we can still have a very fulfilling and happy life. It will always be different but the most scary thing was when we didn't know what the term 'post polio' involved. I keep thinking now how great it is that we live in such a medically enlightened world. Hate to be facing health issues of this nature 150 years ago.
You sound very enlightened and it is great you are facing your illness head on. Good for you.
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susan Haigh
2010-02-03 21:03:41
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health
Dear Louise,
Thank you for your reply. I seem to have a lot of time at the moment, as my normal life has come to a halt.
Sorry to hear about your husband's health . Polio is such a blow, especially when it returns in later age. I have a good friend who has post polio syndrome and he manages very well, with excercise . I can find out if you wish what else he does. I am sure with the right management and knowledge, you will get the right ingredients for a fulfilled life.
Thank you for your comment about been enlightened. I certainly need strength and discipline to cope. Thank goodness for a loving family. Bizarrely I have had to cook so much these last two months , without ever feeling hungry. I am looking forward, like you both to get knowledge to manage my condition. Thank you again Susan
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Kay Walker
2010-02-04 23:06:18
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Health over 50
Hello there- I've just joined and I'm very interested in health, having worked in health research for many years. It seems to come as a shock to many people when their own health or that of a partner suddenly becomes the focus of their lives. I worked for years with men with prostate cancer, following them up after their first treatment (or no treatment) and there was such variation in the way people reacted and adapted. The ones who got on best were those who just decided to carry on as normal as much as they could, perhaps with improved diet and exercise. Often wives worried more than the men, and undermined their own health. Prostate cancer isn't the death sentence that the word "cancer" tends to convey, as I discovered. Most guys were OK for years later except for the very few who had a rapidly growing cancer that tended to spread. Some side effects were distressing, but again the guys who just dealt with them and lived their lives fared better than the ones who got dissatisfied and depressed. So to the partners of sick men I'd say- try to look after yourselves first and encourage your men to get on with life or have some counseling quick smart!
I have the opposite problem- as I've got older, I've become healthier but depressed as I have no work, no kids and a working partner. I have to spend a lot of time alone, which is OK when I'm happy, but hell on earth when I'm sad.
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susan williams
2010-02-05 12:00:11
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health
Dear Kay,
Thank you for your message.... my husband coped so well. He had work to focus on too.
thank you for your advice which is so helpful to all the women who have to cope with a partner's health problem.
My problem is the opposite I have to cope with my problem and he feels helpless. Soon I will get a handle though and I am sure he will be so grateful. It is such a shock when one of a loving relationship gets sick.
I am sorry you have now work, and feel missing children.
Such a challenge especially as you sound as though you ahve contributed so much .Not becoming depressed is a challenge too. Too much down time I guess we look at ourselves. Keeping happily busy is the aim ,but I find this hard right now....
I do hope you can find useful employment. Maybe charity work with the cancer society???? you have lots to offer.
Good luck and thank you for your comments.
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geraldine
2010-02-05 19:59:58
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health
Dear Susan and Kay,
Reading your posts made think once again about my mother (see the post on aging parents). She was always so active and busy but since she lost her eyesight (she has age related macular degeneration) she cannot do the things in life she loved most - driving, baking and cooking for a crowd, playing bowls, and watching sport, the races and games shows on TV. Being 93 she is finding it a real challenge and gets very bored. She had a fall and uses a walker outside her home. She initially got very bored and depressed which was difficult for us children to cope with because she had always been such a stalwart to us and our children and grandchildren. We have organised home help for her three times a day so and she has lots of family and friends visit and take her out. But the most amazing thing to me is that she takes herself out every morning for a walk with her walking frame! She walks 2 - 3 kilometers every day. The man in the coffee shop looks out for her and takes her across the road. The changes in her has been dramatic. Not only is she very spritely but her mental health has improved markedly. We are now worried that she won't be able to walk as often when the weather changes in the winter.
One of our other members has posted a thread on the changes in her life. You will see she has joined a walking group and is goin got archery with her son. If you look at Your Local Networks all the walking groups are listed there and other members may have some good ideas for you too.
Good luck and please don't feel alone. We will always be here for you.
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Raewyn
2010-02-05 20:19:13
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health
Hi Kay and Susan
what you have described Kay, seems to be the perennial problem for women entering what we call 'second adulthood'. It almost means reinventing who you are to survive and thrive for the next however many years.
When I get into the space you are in I remind myself of the 3 things that author M. Scott Peck says we need as human beings: someone to love, something to do and something to look forward to. If I have nothing to look forward to I have to scrabble around quickly to find a new project. Hopeless isn't it but the pace of the life we have led creates a need to be busy or have an absorbing purpose. One of my friends rediscovered her love of writing poetry and her interest in photography. For me, this website has been the most absorbing project I have ever had. And, I might say the hardest thing I have ever done learning from the bottom up. But, the sense of achievement is huge.
What about starting a university degree? Geraldine and I read a lovely story about a 75 year old man who started a degree and found for the first time for many years he couldn't wait for the day to start. Hope I'm like that at his age.
There are many, many women exactly where you are right now. If you can find a solution and write about it, you will help so many others too.
Loved you comments of coping with ill-health. Very wise advice. Thankyou
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Amber
2012-04-29 09:27:36
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Cancer Protection from Water?
It is a little known fact, but insufficient water consumption is actually a risk factor for getting colon, breast, and urinary tract cancers such as cancers of the kidneys, bladder, prostate, and testicles. When the body is well hydrated, blood circulation is expanded and immune system cells can reach the cancerous tissues in greater numbers. Statistical studies indicate that cancer victims drink precious little of the wet stuff. On the other hand, women who drink more than five glasses of water per day actually reduce their chance of getting kidney and bladder cancer by 45 percent. Men reduce their chances of contracting prostate and testicle cancer by 32 percent.14 How can this be? The theory is that water flushes toxins from the body before they can do their damage or be reabsorbed. In one study, female water drinkers reduced their risk of developing breast cancer by 79%. One interpreter of the study, water expert Dr. Susan M. Kleiner, postulates that “possibly maintaining a dilute solution within the cells reduces the potency of estrogen and its ability to cause hormone-related cancer.”15
Kidney stones affect approximately 15% of the population and kidney stone manufacture can be another side effect of insufficient water consumption. One study reported that individuals with a history of kidney stones reduced their reoccurrence by as much as 15% just by increasing their water intake to 4 or more glasses per day. Lack of water promotes the formation of the stones by concentrating the calcium salts inside the kidneys http://www.water-filtering.co.nz/
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