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wendy hablous 2010-03-04 00:07:07	hip op completed Yes its me im back. Had hip replacement done the 22nd last Tuesday. Gosh I was nervous as, had alsorts of negative thoughts about dying on the table. Made a quick will so my children were taken care of. I certainly didnt want my newly seperated from husband to get anything! I tell you I went to hospital in agony and woke up in agony. Im usually such a positive person but pain seems to be my downfall at times. I was doing so well with physio and managing my exercises, masteing the crutches so much so was discharged on the friday. Wow even I was proud of the progress Id made. I am a very determined person and want this to be sucessful so I can turn the clock back a few years and start where I left off. Enjoying gardening walking etc. Most days are good although obviously there hasnt been many to number so far. But on the 3rd day I shed my first tear it wasnt just a trickle I had lost the plot it almost felf like when you come home after having a baby your so excited then, then wham everything gets on top of you and you cant quite put your finger why you feel that way. Emotions are hard things to keep under wraps at times and I am one to bury and box on. I had been so brave now im weak and lacking something. Guess also I have found out that people dont seem to give two hoots about you once your at home and out of the woods so to speak. Maybe thats my fault too as I am independent and people know I cope amazingly well in most situations. I may sound as if im contradicting myself abit here but you do wonder if people have a heart or at least a little compassion. Gosh my partner even seems to be giving my sister in law more attention than I at present. Oh thats right she cant manage so needs help!!!! Yes Yes Yes I get jealous. Gosh sometimes I wish I could act a little more needy seems to be the only way to get attention. But hey Im stubborn and very proud surprise surprise!!!! Any clues to get my positivity up and running on all cylinders again?
Louise 2010-03-05 12:57:00	hip op completed Gosh, isn't it just so normal to have the breakdown when you can see your way out of the woods rather than when you are lost. I don't really know much about hip operations but I have certainly seen many, many people have a new lease of life afterwards. Seems to take a long time though so I think maybe you are expecting too much too soon. When I feel like you, I always say I won't try to do anything until I have cauaght up on sleep because it's just not possible to think rationally or positively without it. You are suffering from such a long period of living with pain and now getting over major surgery. Give it time and just give yourself a treat. Read a book and live in the moment - just saw this quote which really made me feel good -Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you're going to do now and do it."
Heather Talbott 2010-03-06 15:34:33	recovery Hi Wendy So glad your op went OK. I think your feelings are completely natural. Partners can be dense and need things spelled out for them. I can remember giving birth at home and the next day being left to it, while my (now ex) OH went to chop firewood for a solo neighbour and then invited her to dinner, which I had to cook! I know I'm not good at asking for help either, but sometimes wish I had. How about next time someone says, "If you ever need help," say "Well actually..." Sit your man down and tell him you've had a big op, you need some rest and mollycoddling, or at least a cuddle and a meal or two cooked for you, while you put your feet up. Most friends are glad to help if you give them a job, but people these days are busy and don't offer like they used to.
geraldine 2010-03-06 16:06:19	recovery and drugs Hi Wendy, Fantastic that your operation was a success. If you were on morphine, and you probably were after a hip replacement, that could well be the reason you felt so down three days after your operation. My mother, who never cries, got very weepy when she was in hospital and when she came out her doctor took her off the morphine as she was quite depressed (again uncharacteristic behavior). Her mental health improved dramatically again after that. Her doctor told me that the hospital doctors prescribe morphine (in his opinion) too readily. It is a fantastic painkiller, but is addictive and can be the cause of depression as it affects serotonin levels. Likewise codeine. My partner was on his feet in no time after his hip operation so hopefully you will be feeling better again quite quickly too. Make sure you do the exercises though. He went swimming every day and said that was the best exercise for his rehabilitation.

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