Are you able to ask for help?

Dear midlife women,
I decided I would launch right into a thought I had while reading some of the ideas brought up on the Wisanow website, and I wondered how well you are looking after yourselves? I realised I had been doing a pretty lousy job of it myself, after an incident on Queen Street which you can read more about, on my blog.  www.life-in-perspective.com   (this blog is truly amazing. A must to read - I was right with her every step of her story - it could have been me, many a time.  Raewyn)

Having this community, Wisanow, to nurture, share and hear you, takes care of an emotional, communal aspect of your self nurturing, it even gives you some time out, but I was wondering how many other aspects of caring for yourself, you take seriously?

What do you do to feel physically fabulous everyday? Do you exercise? Are you finding some ways to stretch and breathe, we all say we should, must, will, but are you? Maybe a walk, swim or a rollerblade along the beachfront will make your energy soar! Don’t be self limiting is the point.

What about your image? Dress well, put on some make up, slouching around makes you feel awful. Falling into a rut is a problem, we need to bolster our self confidence and if a bright red lip stick makes you feel good, go for it!

What are you eating? Are you eating healthily? Sometimes we fall into a trap of cooking up the same boring meals week after week, simply because we could not be bothered! Try something new, eat some green healthy stuff, drink some water in between the G&T’s. Broccoli is good for something, I forget what.(hmm… too many G&T’s)

Are you having some creative fun? Remember your passion, your spirit, your joy, get out there and play! This is important, you will meet like minded people, nourish your soul and create magic.

What are you doing to look after your financial health? Do you have a plan? Do you have a course of action that looks after you? Get one! Financial stress is unhealthy!

What’s happening on a relationship or emotional level? No relationship? Well where are you getting love and support? Friends, family? Nourish those relationships for now and be kind to yourself, give yourself what you need. Plan a get together with people you care about, go out for a coffee, do something that connects you with someone special, soon.

This is not a prescription, this is about you finding balance, confidence and support. It is a way to find out where you most need help and about being able to ask for it. I discovered I really have a hard time asking for help and accepting help, even when it is offered. “No man is an Island” and while we may live on one, we still need each other and we need to build that community health - that is what Wisanow is doing and the need for it is clear.

Are you able to ask for help?

If you would like to respond to this letter email Amanda at  lifeinperspective@xtra.co.nz or phone for an appointment on 09 5754647 or mobile 021 125 7775  www.life-in-perspective.com
Alternately you can email your response to us here and we will forward it directly to Amanda